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15 Common Behaviors of People With Low Self-Esteem: A Closer Look

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Hey there! Let's chat about something that touches many of our lives – self-esteem. You know, that inner voice that can be your biggest cheerleader or, sometimes, your harshest critic. For those struggling with low self-esteem, certain behaviors tend to pop up, almost like unwelcome guests at a party.

Let’s walk through 15 of these, and maybe you'll recognize a few. Don't worry, though – awareness is the first step towards positive change!

  1. Over-Apologizing: People with low self-esteem tend to apologize excessively, even for situations that don't warrant an apology. This behavior stems from a fear of offending others or being wrong. They might apologize for things beyond their control, like bad weather during an outing, or for simply expressing their opinions.
  2. Avoiding Eye Contact: Avoiding eye contact is a way of minimizing one's presence. People with low self-esteem might do this to avoid drawing attention to themselves, fearing negative judgment or scrutiny.
  3. Difficulty Accepting Compliments: Instead of a straightforward 'thank you,' they might dismiss or downplay compliments. This could be due to a belief that they don't deserve praise or because accepting it conflicts with their negative self-image.
  4. Self-Criticism: They often engage in harsh self-criticism, focusing on their perceived flaws and mistakes. This internal dialogue can be relentless and is usually more severe than any criticism they might receive from others.
  5. People-Pleasing: This involves going out of one’s way to make others happy, often neglecting personal needs or desires. They might agree to things they're uncomfortable with or overextend themselves to avoid disappointing others.
  6. Fear of Failure: This fear can lead to avoiding new challenges or opportunities. They might stick to what they know to avoid the risk of failing, which they may see as a reflection of their worth.
  7. Indecisiveness: Struggling with decisions, even minor ones, is common. They might agonize over choices, worried about making the 'wrong' decision and its possible consequences.
  8. Social Withdrawal: They may withdraw from social interactions to avoid feelings of inadequacy or the stress of socializing. This can lead to a cycle of loneliness and further isolation.
  9. Neglecting Personal Needs: This could manifest as not taking care of their physical health, ignoring emotional needs, or not pursuing interests and hobbies. They might feel unworthy of self-care or too preoccupied with pleasing others.
  10. Perfectionism: Setting unrealistically high standards for themselves, they might be driven by a fear of criticism or a belief that they need to be perfect to be valued. This often leads to excessive stress and feelings of failure when these standards are inevitably unmet.
  11. Comparing Themselves to Others: They might constantly compare themselves unfavorably to others, focusing on what they lack. This comparison can lead to feelings of inadequacy and resentment.
  12. Difficulty Expressing Opinions: They might suppress their own views and agree with others, even when they disagree, to avoid conflict or because they believe their opinions are less valid.
  13. Reliance on Others for Validation: Seeking constant reassurance or approval from others can be a sign of not trusting their own judgment and relying on external validation to feel worthy.
  14. Submissiveness: This can manifest as an inability to say no or stand up for themselves. They might tolerate unfair treatment or overstep boundaries to avoid conflict or rejection.
  15. Attributing Success to External Factors: Instead of acknowledging their own efforts and abilities, they might credit luck or other people for their successes, reinforcing the belief that they're not competent or deserving.

So, we’ve just walked through a pretty detailed neighborhood of behaviors that are often signs of low self-esteem. It's like getting a sneak peek into a world where self-doubt and uncertainty are the unwelcome guests that just won't leave the party. But here’s the thing: recognizing these behaviors is more than just an exercise in self-awareness. It’s about understanding where we, or someone we care about, might be on this winding road of self-perception.

Think of low self-esteem as a sneaky shadow that follows you around, whispering doubts and fears into your ear. It can be a tough shadow to shake off, but it's definitely not impossible. The first step is often the hardest – admitting that our self-esteem might need a bit of a boost.

[Read: Low Self-Esteem in Men: Unraveling the Hidden Struggle]

Research tells us that our self-esteem is shaped by our experiences, relationships, and how we view ourselves in the world. It's not set in stone. Like a plant that needs the right amount of sunlight and water to grow, our self-esteem needs nurturing too. This can be through positive relationships, achievements, and learning to be kinder to ourselves.

Take Maria, for instance, a friend of mine who always struggled with feeling like she wasn’t good enough. She was the queen of over-apologizing and would rarely speak her mind. After recognizing these signs, she started small – practicing self-affirmation, setting realistic goals, and slowly stepping out of her comfort zone. It wasn’t overnight magic, but over time, she started to stand a little taller, speak a little louder, and shine a bit brighter.

And here's a cool thing: as we work on boosting our self-esteem, it not only helps us but also has a ripple effect on those around us. Our relationships can become stronger, our work more fulfilling, and our daily interactions a bit brighter. It’s like lighting a candle in a dark room – suddenly, everything seems a little clearer.

So, if you’ve seen yourself in any of these 15 signs, take a deep breath. You're not alone, and it’s totally okay to be a work in progress. We all are. And if you know someone who might be struggling with low self-esteem, a bit of understanding and a supportive shoulder can go a long way.

In the grand scheme of things, building self-esteem is about making peace with who we are and recognizing our value in the world. It's about replacing the whispers of doubt with shouts of confidence. And remember, every step forward, no matter how small, is a step towards a brighter, more confident you. Let’s keep those steps going, shall we?

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