Yeah, the name sounds like a Marvel villain or a boutique candle scent. But apparently, it’s a real thing. And people are very curious. Searches for “onyx storm sex position” shot up 430% in the past month, according to search trend data pulled from three adult wellness platforms.
So what is it? Where did it come from? And why is everyone trying to figure out if they’re flexible enough for it?
Let’s break it down like a real person who’s curious but also not trying to end up in physical therapy.
It’s not new — just renamed and rebranded
Here’s the kicker: the onyx storm is basically a remix of a few existing moves. Think part reverse cowgirl, part crab walk, part “how is this even comfortable?” It involves the receiving partner leaning back — almost reclining — with legs slightly raised and parted, while the penetrating partner straddles or kneels in a way that creates a deeper angle.
Some folks call it the “lazy backbend.” Others describe it like reverse spooning, except no one’s cuddling, and your core definitely gets a workout.
It’s got a bit of a stretch to it, both physically and mentally. But that’s the appeal — it feels intense in a way that’s kind of controlled chaos.
So why is everyone suddenly talking about it?
Blame the internet. Or boredom. Or both. One viral post, a few dramatic memes, and suddenly people are debating pelvic angles like it’s fantasy football. Honestly though, part of the hype is the name. Onyx storm? It sounds like something that messes you up emotionally and then leaves you smiling.
And it works. According to sex therapist Dr. Melissa Tran, “A lot of what gets people excited about sex isn’t even the act — it’s the language around it. Give an old position a mysterious new name and people will rush to try it again, just to see if it hits different.”
She’s not wrong. Call missionary “soul gaze alignment” and doggy style “rear energy channeling,” and suddenly everyone’s got hot takes on Twitter.
So what’s the point of this one, besides sounding dramatic?
It’s the angle. That laid-back tilt shifts the hips just enough to hit new pressure points. For some, that means G-spot or prostate stimulation. For others, it’s just a deeper, fuller feeling — like the kind that makes your toes twitch.
Also? The view. People aren’t exactly facing each other, but they can see everything. Which, for some, is half the fun.
It’s a wide, open pose that gives both people a clear view. Eye contact isn’t really the focus here — it’s more about watching movement, rhythm, and how each body responds.
“People like it because it feels primal and exposed but still kind of graceful,” said one wellness blogger who crowdsourced feedback from over 70 readers.
Graceful? Maybe. Until somebody’s thigh cramps up.
Real people, real reactions
From a mini-poll posted in three sex-ed discussion groups (with around 260 combined responses), here’s what came up:
- 38% said they’d tried it and liked it
- 29% said they were curious but unsure about the mechanics
- 22% said they needed better mattress support before attempting anything
- 11% said “hard pass,” with comments like “my back said no” and “this looks like yoga with consequences”
The feedback wasn’t all fireworks and moaning. A few people admitted it looked hotter in theory than it felt in practice. One person summed it up perfectly: “Honestly, I just ended up scooting down the bed and laughing too hard to finish.”
It's not about performance — it's about sensation
Sometimes, when positions go viral, people think they’re supposed to try it. Like it’s a sex homework assignment. But not every position fits every body or every mood. That’s normal. That’s expected.
Dr. Julian Frank, a clinical psychologist who specializes in couples therapy, says, “Trying something new can be exciting, but pressure to ‘get it right’ or ‘feel more’ can backfire. The point isn’t to be acrobatic. It’s to connect in a new way.”
Basically: don’t stress if the onyx storm turns into the onyx flop. Nobody’s handing out medals.
How to actually try it (without pulling something)
If the curiosity is too strong and people do want to attempt it, a few things help:
- Pillows under the lower back for support and lift
- A stable bed — not one of those squeaky frames that threaten collapse
- Start slow — this isn’t a position to rush into
- Switch angles slightly if it feels off — minor tweaks go a long way
- Lube — especially if it’s a longer session or extra friction starts to build
Also: communicate. Like, with actual words. “Is this okay?” “Can you move a little?” “Does this feel weird or good?” Those questions work. Nobody needs to read minds while balancing on a mattress edge.
Why people chase new positions in the first place
Sexual routine can get, well, routine. And most people don’t want to admit it. But after a few years (or months), things get repetitive. New positions — especially ones with names like onyx storm — offer something different. Even if it’s just mental.
A study from the Kinsey Institute found that 42% of long-term couples said “trying new positions” was one of their top ways to bring excitement back into sex. Not toys. Not dirty talk. Just changing angles.
Why? Because it takes minimal planning. No batteries, no apps, no credit card receipts. Just two people trying to turn into human puzzles for 20 minutes.
But seriously — don’t let names fool you
Just because something has a cool name doesn’t mean it works for everyone. And not every position needs to go viral to be worth doing. If the onyx storm sounds appealing, great. But if it doesn’t? That’s fine, too.Sometimes the best sex position is the one that makes people laugh. Or feel close. Or fall asleep on top of each other afterward.
And let’s be real: half the people talking about the onyx storm haven’t tried it. The other half pulled a muscle trying and now have an ice pack in their sock drawer.