Let’s be real—women aren’t all walking around dropping obvious hints. Some are shy. Some don’t even realize their feelings. And some just enjoy messing with your head (kidding… mostly). But if you’re paying attention, there are definitely ways to tell if she sees you as more than just her go-to meme supplier.
She Finds Reasons To Hang Out
Ever notice how she suddenly has all these random excuses to spend time with you? Maybe she needs help picking out a new hoodie (even though she owns 12 identical ones). Or she just happens to be free whenever you suggest doing something. If she’s making an effort to be around, chances are, you’re not just another face in the crowd.
She Remembers Weirdly Specific Things About You.
You mentioned your favorite pizza place once, and now she casually suggests going there? You told her about a random childhood memory, and months later, she brings it up? People don’t store that kind of data unless they care. If she remembers the little things, she’s paying attention for a reason.
She Acts A Little Different Around You
If she’s super chill and goofy with everyone but gets just a little more flustered around you, that’s interesting. Or maybe she’s extra playful with you in a way she isn’t with others. If you notice she has a “you-specific” way of acting, that’s worth paying attention to.
She Drops Future Plans (That Include You)
It’s one thing to invite you to a party next weekend. It’s another to casually mention how “next summer, we should totally take a trip somewhere.” If she’s thinking about you in her future without hesitation, that’s not nothing.
She Gets A Little Weird When You Mention Other Girls
This one’s tricky. Some girls are naturally curious, so don’t assume she likes you just because she asks about your dating life. But if she suddenly changes the subject or makes a joke that seems just a little too forced, she might not love the idea of you with someone else.
Her Friends Know Something You Don’t
If her friends start acting weirdly invested in your life, giving you those “knowing” looks, or suddenly including you in their plans, it’s worth thinking about. Friends are like the unofficial PR team when someone has a crush. If they’re treating you like an honorary member of the group, there’s a reason.
She Starts Conversations—And Keeps Them Going
If she’s always the one texting first, sending you TikToks she “just knew you’d like,” or finding ways to keep the conversation going, that’s a green flag. If she wasn’t interested, she wouldn’t put in the effort. Simple as that.
She’s A Little Touchy
Some people are naturally touchy, so don’t read too much into this if she’s the type to hug everyone. But if she casually finds excuses to touch you—a playful shove, fixing your hair, “accidentally” brushing your arm—it’s definitely a sign she’s comfortable with you. And maybe more than that.
She Compliments You In A Different Way
Everyone throws out the occasional “nice shirt” or “cool shoes,” but if she compliments things about you that feel more personal—your laugh, the way you handle stress, how you make people feel—she sees something deeper. And that’s not something people say to just any friend.
So, What Now?
If a lot of these signs are lining up, there’s a good chance she’s into you. But here’s the deal—there’s no magic formula to knowing for sure. The only way to truly find out? Just ask. Yeah, it’s terrifying. But it’s also the only way to stop driving yourself nuts.
And if it turns out she really does just see you as a friend? At least you won’t have to spend the next six months reading into every emoji she sends. And hey, worst case, you still have a solid friend (and an excuse to eat an embarrassing amount of ice cream while you process your feelings).