Let’s talk about those.
“Did you eat?”
I don’t know what it is with guys and asking if you’ve eaten, but it’s a whole thing. Like, my ex never remembered my birthday (lol) but would always text “did you eat today?” at like 11pm.
It’s weirdly sweet though. It’s like they’re trying to take care of you without making a big deal out of it.
My friend once said, “If he’s checking your blood sugar without knowing it, he’s probably into you.” Honestly, facts.
And here’s the weird part: when he asks if you’ve eaten, it’s not just about food. It’s like his awkward way of checking in. Like, “Hey, I care, but I don’t really know how to say that, so… food?”
A friend of mine once joked, “If he’s monitoring your meals like a nurse, but he’s not your boyfriend yet, that man’s already halfway gone.” And honestly? She had a point.
When he sends you something and says, “This is so you”
Okay, true story — this one guy once sent me a TikTok of a raccoon stealing grapes with full-on intensity and just texted: “This is you.”
Was I confused? Kind of.
Was I also laughing? Absolutely.
Did I weirdly love that he thought of me when he saw a grape-hoarding raccoon? …Yeah.
It’s not really about what he sends. It’s that you’re in his head when he’s doing literally anything else. Brushing his teeth, scrolling his feed, standing in line for coffee — and boom, something reminds him of you. And he doesn’t just think it — he tells you.
That’s not just “friendly.” That’s “you’re on my mind in the middle of random Tuesday moments” territory.
When he says, “You’re not like other girls” (ugh, but also hmm)
Look, I know. That line can feel like it fell out of some cheesy rom-com from 2009.
But it depends how he says it.
If it’s coming from a guy who barely knows you and says it right after you mention liking books or drinking whiskey, yeah — hard pass.
But if he’s seen your awkward dancing, knows how obsessed you are with mini hot sauce bottles, and still says you feel different to him? Then that’s kinda nice. Even if he phrases it like a teenager in a love song.
He’s trying — in his clumsy, guy-ish way — to say, “You’re someone I don’t just scroll past. You’re actually something to me.” Which, again, is big for someone who maybe doesn’t talk about feelings much.
“I wish you were here” hits different
This one always gets me. It’s not dramatic. It’s not “I miss you” in bold letters. It’s just soft. Simple. And it means something.
One time I got that message from a guy who was literally at a party surrounded by people. He just texted, “This would be way more fun if you were here.”
That’s the moment you realize — oh. It’s not about the crowd or the party. It’s about who he actually wants to be around. Spoiler: it's probably you.
“Let me know if you need anything” (but then he actually shows up)
Yeah yeah, people say this all the time. But here’s the key difference — does he actually do stuff?
Because if you casually say you’ve got a headache and he shows up with snacks and Gatorade? He means it.
If your internet sucks and he offers to “take a look at it,” even though you didn’t ask? Yeah, that’s not just tech support.
That’s someone saying “I care about your comfort” without saying the word “care” at all.
The classic: “Text me when you get home”
It’s been said a million times, but there’s a reason it still matters.
It’s simple. Not flashy. But it tells you he’s not done thinking about you just because you walked away.
And if he double texts like, “Hey, you home?” — he’s not being overbearing. He’s anxious because the idea of you not being okay bothers him more than he wants to admit.
That’s not just politeness. That’s something else
So yeah, not every guy’s gonna come out and say “I like you” in a rom-com moment with music swelling in the background. Most won’t. But if he’s constantly showing up in these low-key ways — through weird memes, check-ins, or making sure you don’t walk home alone — he’s kind of saying it already.The words might not be perfect. Honestly, half the time they’re awkward or kinda dumb. But they’re real.
And if you’re paying attention, you’ll hear what he’s not saying out loud.
That’s where the truth usually hides — in the random stuff, in the little things.
So, next time you’re wondering if he likes you? Don’t just wait for some grand confession. Just listen to what he says when he thinks it doesn’t matter.
That’s when it does.