What simping actually looks like
There’s a difference between being a genuinely nice person and straight-up simping. One is about kindness, the other is about losing all self-respect just to impress someone. Here are a few ways to know if you’ve crossed the line:
- You prioritize them over everything – No matter what’s going on, you drop your plans the second they call. Work, friends, your own needs? All on the back burner.
- You’re always paying for everything – Treating someone occasionally is cool. But if your wallet is constantly taking the hit while they barely acknowledge it, that’s not a good sign.
- You’re making excuses for bad behavior – If someone cancels on you last minute, ignores your messages, or just straight-up disrespects you, but you keep telling yourself “they’re just busy,” that’s a problem.
- You’re afraid to say no – You agree to everything just to stay in their good graces. Even if it’s inconvenient, even if you’re exhausted, you still say yes.
- Your self-worth depends on their attention – If their validation is the only thing keeping your confidence up, it’s time to rethink things.
Why simping is a bad look
It’s not just about how it makes you feel—it’s about how others see you too. If someone knows they can get whatever they want from you without giving anything back, they’ll take advantage of it. And even worse? It lowers your value in their eyes. People respect those who respect themselves. Constantly throwing yourself at someone doesn’t make you more attractive—it makes you easy to ignore.
How to stop simping and start respecting yourself
Okay, so maybe you see a little too much of yourself in those signs. Good news—this isn’t permanent. You can stop simping and start acting like someone who actually values themselves. Here’s how:
- Set some boundaries – You don’t have to be available 24/7. If you’re busy, say so. If you don’t feel like doing something, don’t. Simple.
- Stop chasing – If someone wants to talk to you, they will. If you’re always the one reaching out and getting one-word responses, take the hint and move on.
- Start valuing your time – Your time is just as important as theirs. Spend it with people who actually appreciate you, not just those who tolerate you.
- Work on yourself – Confidence doesn’t come from someone else’s approval. Hit the gym, pick up a new skill, focus on your goals—do things that make you feel good about yourself.
- Recognize your worth – You bring value to the table. If someone doesn’t see that, it’s their loss, not yours.
The bottom line
Simping isn’t about being a good person—it’s about putting someone else’s needs so far above your own that you lose yourself in the process. Respect yourself, set some standards, and stop handing out effort to people who wouldn’t do the same for you. The second you start acting like you’re worth something, people will treat you that way too.